😱 Why You Really Need a F*ck It List 😈

Stop being polite with the beliefs, patterns, situations and people that honestly need to f*ck right off.

Sep 02, 2025

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In sessions with clients, oftentimes a direct transmission will come through for them from the Supreme Divine, or Source, or their highest divine self.

Sometimes, as it comes through me, so does a curse word or two. Or a whole litany!

Some who were raised that God doesn’t curse experience a moment of shock.

I remind them that the divine isn’t speaking English.
This isn’t a language.
It’s frequency.
It’s pure signal.

And my brain translates that into words we can relate to.

Some frequencies are intense.

Or they need to pierce in a way that interrupts a pattern or dislodges a belief.

And sometimes, a curse word that holds the right magnitude of frequency is what speaks through me to deliver the energy.

So don’t be shocked when the frequency of what speaks here does so with a choice 💩 drop here or there.

I’m not doing it to tigger you.

Or maybe I am. 😏

Okay… so let’s get down to the real business here: Your F*ck It list.

You ever settle into a rant with a bestie — the one who loves all your flavors and textures…

The one who can join you in those spicy moments where you just rage at all that’s messy and unlivable and unfair in the world and in your life?

This list is THAT bestie.

But it does you one better.
You’re not just here to rant about what’s wrong.
You’re here to annihilate it before it can knock you down one more peg.

This list names what is no longer allowed to exist in your space.

Not in your life.
Not in your relationships.
Not in your body.
Not in your world.

Period.

What Kinds of Things Go on the F*ck It List?

The kinds of things that make your blood boil.
The thoughts that keep you spinning at night.

That looping doomsday spiral that’s part anxiety and part over-taxed nervous system.

The conversation you don’t want to have even one more time with your mother.

And definitely those voices in your head that boss you around: Announcing who you get to be or don’t get to be, what you’re good enough for and what you need to sacrifice for, what you should or shouldn’t have done.

Anything that makes you feel:

Separate, Suppressed, Opposed, Controlled, Diminished, Distorted, Unseen, Unsafe, Disallowed, Not Enough, Limited, Suffering, or DONE.

Start with the experiences…

Start keeping a note on your phone or in your journal — a page where you can add things as they come to you.

And over the course of the next week, record everything that pisses you off. Everything and everyone you’re sick of.

If you think to yourself or say to a friend, “oh they can f*ck right off” or “they can kick rocks” or “if I have to listen to / put up with / that one more time…” jot down the person or situation in your journal or note.

And don’t be polite. This is for you.

You get to feel how you feel. Don’t edit yourself.

This is a place where you can be TRUE for you.

Once you’ve got a good starter list together, then name the deeper pattern:

This is the actual F*ck It List — not the people or situations, but the way they hijack your system, or the patterns they showcase, or the trauma they trigger.

These are the limiting structures you want to get rid of.

The deeper F*ck It Structures include:

Limiting or damaging beliefs
Behavior or response patterns you can’t seem to break (perfectionism, belittling yourself, scarcity, survival mode, rescuing others).
Power delay or deferral patterns (not yet, not until xyz happens first, or always consulting others for permission or clarity before acting)
Defense mechanisms (e.g. dissociation, fawning, cynicism, hyper-independence)
Self-sabotage or self-abandoning scripts (loss narratives you keep repeating like “if I rest, everything collapses” or “if I am a safe masculine, she won’t reject me”)
Emotional hijacks, like shame spirals, rage explosions or guilt loops

The Value in Naming These

The value in naming these comes down to realizing they are not YOUR name.

These structures are not yours.
They’re not you.

You didn’t create them and in many cases, you didn’t even consciously choose them.

Yet without bringing clarity and awareness to this, you likely go through life thinking that yes, you DO have to be the good girl for your family — because that’s who they say you are, what they’re willing to give love to, and what they reinforce.

Or you believe that the only way to get love, to deserve intimacy, to not be ‘bad and wrong’ is to be a safe masculine devoid of all fierceness, power or that weird kink you think no one will adore (news flash: they will).

These scripts or beliefs aren’t evil; they’re incomplete.

They can’t hold the whole vast you in all your complexity, depth and nuance.

Same with limiting beliefs and patterns and defense mechanisms: They’re often borne of necessity and true in a moment. They maybe did rescue you once.

The danger comes when we adopt them as our permanent truth and unconscious habit. An unyielding overlay on reality that doesn’t let what’s real and true in any given moment reach us.

And so we’re stuck living the same trauma pattern over and over in our experience in a misguided effort to protect ourselves.

This is no bueno. And it’s time to say NO.

How to Own Your NO

Notice as you encounter the surface people, situations and experiences that inspire that F off! attitude.
If you’re used to deferring to keep the peace, fulfilling the good girl or safe masculine roles, you may find it hard to even access your frustration or anger.
That’s okay. Pay attention to how you DO react. What do you feel emotionally? Do you feel defeated? Hopeless? Grief? Loneliness? Not enough or like you’re walking on egg shells? Any negative feeling is a signal.
Also notice what happens in your body. Do you feel constriction or tension? Like your chest gets heavy or it’s hard to breathe? Does your nervous system go into fight, flight or freeze mode? Sometimes a certain pain develops somewhere as a signal.
Take note of these awareness signals - somatic sensations, negative feelings, or noted people, situations and experiences… and when you encounter them, stay aware and present. When a signal arises, that’s your cue to set a boundary.
Boundaries can look like: Pause and walk away. Speak up that you’re not available for where the situation is now going. They can have your presence, but not that. Or simply say, “No, this doesn’t work for me.”

If You Want to Annihilate These For Good —

Without Policing Your Experience or Fighting the Hold They Have On You

If you’re like me and you prefer short cuts, then you’re gonna love this one.

It’s like dishing back all the shade and all the rage and all the hurt — to entirely squash and eradicate and kick out what has held you back and kept you down.

You don’t act out against others.
You don’t negotiate with limitation or pain or that jab.
You don’t abandon yourself just to keep the peace and status quo.
You also don’t have to fight anything.

Instead: You Source your power to delete what should have never had a right to interfere with you in the first place.

How to stop negotiating & just nullify everything on your F*ck It List:

I created a step-by-step nullification guide for my Source Signal Subscribers.

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